The Beauty of Trials

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Are you in that time and space where …

the nights just seem so long,

the winter just seems to drag on,

the rough patch just got rougher,

Are you in a difficult lot in life right now?  Wandering and wondering …

Why is this happening to me?

This isn’t fair!

How can I carry on?

What will my future be?

 

Much as we hate it, life has its ups and downs: disappointments and betrayals, broken relationships, creditors on the door, lost a job, lost a home, lost a loved-one. For some people, it may have seemed like it’s an all-time low or that the roller-coaster is never coming back up.  Trying times like these leave us hurt, frustrated, anxiety-filled and even depressed.

In the darkest of my nights, tears just rolled down; the grieve was so deep, no words can describe.  During these deepest moments of despair, I cried out, desperately to Jesus and guess what – He met me there!

There and then, He called my name and told me ‘to let go of the past’ and that ‘He is there for me’ and ‘He is enough for me’.  Through it all, I’ve learnt that He loves me more than I can ever imagine and He is always there with me.

So then, why the suffering and pain? I’ve learnt much from these trying times, how to forgive some people and rejoice with others, how to be content with what I have and quit complaining, how to feel for people, how to give and receive love.

Just like there’s no victory without a battle, no rainbow without the rain, no dawn without dusk (and we know the darkest hour lies just before dawn) – There can be no growth without pain.

When life gets overwhelming, everything can seem to crash in together simultaneously, leaving you with no room to breathe. This is when you need to breathe in the air of Jesus – cry out to Him. He will come and hold you, heal and love you, and take you through this season.  He’s been there for me, I’m sure He’ll be there for you.

 

Whatever your circumstances, know that God is working behind the scene, 24 x 7.

Whatever happens know that God has not left you.

It may not be what we expect but then again, how would He be God if He always meets our expectations?

Nonetheless He will bring you to a flourishing end and it will be more beautiful than what you can imagine.

 


Isaiah 55:8-9

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.

James 1:2-3

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.

Divine Appointment

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It was a normal summer Saturday morning.  Ok, perhaps not so normal perhaps, as I had to drag myself out of bed and travel halfway across the other side of town to meet a prospective client.

It was one of those days in which I wished I should have gotten ready faster and left the house earlier.  Which is why I agreed immediately when my dear sister (although we’ve much sibling rivalry at times) happily volunteered to give me a lift as she was heading out.  She dropped me halfway to my client’s place so I could take a bus to my destination.   To cut the story short, I was well on my way, arrived at the bus stop and after a few minutes the bus came.

Upon boarding the bus, I immediately noticed an empty seat beside an old lady at the front.  I smiled to her, she smiled back and I plonked myself down right beside her.  She’s dressed very prettily in a dress, silver white hair elegant combed back.  The wrinkles on her face and arm tells me that she’s probably around the ripe old age of 90 (I think).

Before I realised how rude I was to be staring at her, she started talking to me.  She introduced herself as Florence (First thing I thought of was Florence Nightingale and wondered if she was ever a nurse). And of course I told her my name.  Then we carried on with our mini conversation as below :

Old Lady :  Oh isn’t it a lovely sunny day?

Me: Well, yes it’s indeed a sunny day (hmm..  so much so for weather talk, it sure is sunny but I’m not sure about the lovely part)

Old Lady: Are you in a hurry Macy?

Me:  Yes, in fact, I’m rushing for an appointment.

Old Lady:  I am going to the Church just round the next corner, I thought you might be interested to come with me.  But, well, since you’re in a hurry today, I want you to have this ( speaking which  she reached into her handbag and wanted to pass me a Christian flyer).

Me: (I said smiling),  I’m a believer too.

Old Lady: Oh, really ! Praise the Lord (she’s smiling so widely with a sparkle in her eyes).  You know God is Good. In life there’ll be ups and

downs, sometimes you may find yourself in a muddy pit.  Don’t be discouraged, God will pull you out of the pit.

 

At this point, my spirit immediately felt comforted, yet I was close to tears.

Flashback to the night before, I really don’t feel like coming to this part of town but had no choice as the appointment had been fixed (and afterall, the client always wins).  This was a place with many memories of a past relationship. I remembered even praying to God before bed the night before to grant me strength and peace in my heart.

 

The next thing I knew, the old Lady spoke again

Old Lady: Macy, can we pray for a while?

I nodded my head.

Old Lady: Dear Father, thank you for Macy and I pray that you’ll keep her and bless her. Amen.

 

After the prayer, she said goodbye (still with that sparkle in her eyes) and got down the bus.

And although this old granny is a complete stranger, it was one of the most wonderfully short and sweet prayer I’ve ever had someone said with me.  The morning started out a little grey for me but meeting the old lady just lifted my spirits up.  Though we only spoke for a while, and I don’t even know her, I felt so divine!  Amazingly, I felt God’s presence with me. It’s such a peaceful and comforting feeling that I can’t explain.

Moreover, the old lady is so full of joy and life at her age!!  That spirit and sparkle in her eyes is something that makes me really say ‘Wow’ , almost like being star struck (or even better).  She’s just so inspiring.

I believe she must have been sent by God.  How wonderous ! How marvelous !

Very often, we ask God to speak to us, give us visions, reveal to us in dreams.  But somehow, I think today God chose to speak to me through a lovely old granny.

 

I will always treasure this wonderful memory in my heart.  Perhaps, one day when I’m that old, God will still use me to encourage some younger woman out there feeling down and out and lonely, to remind her that she’s never alone, that her beloved Father in heaven is watching over her with Love.

 

Romans 8:39 nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Success at Workplace : Passion or Conviction ?

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Passion or Conviction – Which is more important for success at the workplace or in life?

What is the difference between Passion and Conviction?

 

We often hear and even use the word Passion.  What does it really mean?

Passion is often used to refer to love for someone or something, ironically refers to ‘suffering’ in Ancient Greek.  Perhaps it is the intense emotion that makes one suffer – sleepless nights, loss of appetite, anxiety, fear of loss …

Passion is so strong an emotion that it oftens render reasoning meaningless.  Besides Romance, Passion is applicable to love for a certain pursuit, such as occupation, exploration, a craft or a hobby.   For example, someone with a passion for writing may stay up till the wee hours in the morning, to pen down any inspirational flow of words that come into mind, an artist passionate about his art may spend days on end on a painting which he believes is his greatest masterpiece ever, an athlete passionate about his sport will train hours after hours everyday to improve himself and stretch his limits.  Talk to someone about something they are passionate about and you’ll immediately see the sparkle in their eyes.

Passion is the spark, that kick-starts the Firing inferno – it motivates us, engulfs us, sometimes devours us.

 

However, I believe to succeed in whichever field you’re in, passion is only half the story.  Conviction is another vital ingredient for success.

What is Conviction?  Conviction is an unshakable belief in something without need for proof or evidence.
So strong is the belief that it holds itself as an article of faith.
To the mind, it is the cognition of doubtless truth.  To the heart, it is this commitment that keeps us going and going, when the going gets tough.
It is the voice in our heart that tells us to ‘Get up”, time and again when we falter.
It is the energy that feeds our soul, with each passing hurdle, pitfall, wear and tear.
Conviction pushes us beyond the boundaries of our limits

Now to me, Passion is the spark that gets me started BUT Conviction pushes me beyond.  When I’m convinced about something, I’m committed to it and so it becomes more than a casual passion.  It becomes something I believe worth pursuing.
Conviction is the voice, constantly telling me that ‘What doesn’t kill me will only make me stronger”
Conviction is my mentor, my coach, my mantra to keep going and going, with the destination in mind.

I used to think that Passion was everything until Conviction found me!

 

This article was written as a part of the “Most Marketable Skills” Campaign on Webucator.

Many thanks to Bob Clary for telling me about this campaign and I feel so honoured to be part of  it!

In case you’d like to see what other writers wrote about, here are some of the other blogger’s input:

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Preparing for the workforce: Why learning to write well is worth your while by @moses_says

The Success of Mimicking by @Lbee27

 

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Hope for the Broken Hearted

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For there would be no sunrise without dark nights, … , no restoration without brokenness.  

 

Life is unpredictable.  The only thing constant is change, just like the four seasons.  And much like the many parodies of life, the human heart is so intended for contrast that, without one, we would not comprehend (appreciate) the other.  For there would be no rainbow without the storm, no child birth without pain.   If we follow this reasoning, it is possible to grow seeds of joy in the soil of sorrow!

As the famous author C.S. Lewis so aptly put it – a heart that is so sheltered from the possibility of wreckage “will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.”

What’s wrong with an ‘irredeemable’ heart?  To answer that question, rather let’s ponder on “What good is an irredeemable heart?”  Can it spread forth unconditional love; is it capable of genuine magnanimity, let alone, even appreciate true love?   See the picture?  An irredeemable heart is a heart of stone, impervious, insensitive, and incapable of growth.

Hence, perhaps we need to suffer the agony of a broken heart before our heart can be restructured and restored into a more beautiful heart.  Given that, I’ll gladly have my shabby heart wrecked and shattered.  So it can be restructured into something more splendid than before!

Though the process is painful and uncertain, knowing the end result is reason enough to help me focus on staying hopeful.  So besides having an attitude of joy, I’m journeying on with an attitude of gratitude, in anticipation of the beauty to come.

If this is what you’re going through right now, I welcome you on this trail.  Though our paths may be different, I believe we’re getting onto something more magnificent in time to come.  Never lose faith and Joy!

 

Isaiah 61:3 – he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning,

 

 

Hope for the Abandoned

 

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“The spirit of abandonment makes us vulnerable to please others at all cost, often without us realizing it…”

 

I woke up to one of the most beautiful and bewildering dreams I’ve ever had this morning – Almost like Alice in Wonderland.

At the beginning of the dream, I was in a kind of a road/ hiking trip with a few people.   We were travelling together, initially in the city.  As we travelled, I was feeling anxious all the time.  It seems that my travelling companions keep wandering off from me, attracted by other sights or simply just taking turns to disappear.  I would be the one hunting them down and bringing them back on track.

Somehow as we travelled, the background changed to a countryside and eventually I had lost all my travelling companions, it seems even the last friend ‘disappeared’ from me.  For a moment, I was feeling lost and abandoned – all alone in a wide countryside with noone in sight.

I was surrounded by a huge landscape of a flat plain, so huge I could not see beyond the green grass.  As I took a few more steps, still worried over how to get out of the place and lamenting why my companions left me, the background was suddenly filled with thousands and thousands of flowers.  The flowers covered the grass like a carpet, they were all in full bloom with all sorts of colours (yes I dream in colours), so bright and beautiful.  Seeing this amazing sight, I was so mesmerized by Mother nature that I just decided to let go and just rest in mother nature.  So I lie down on the soft carpet of wonderful flowers and closed my eyes.  It feels soft, warm and so comfortable.

When I opened my eyes, I found myself on my bed.  The words resting in Mother Nature echoed in my mind, then I realised that resting in Mother Nature actually meant resting in God!  In that moment, I felt a blessed assurance – God has been and will always be with me!

Since young, I’ve always felt rejected, abandoned, insignificant.  In my darkest hours, I often felt an intense loneliness.  The spirit of abandonment made me so vulnerable to please others at all cost, often without realizing how much this hurt me.  Just like the greenery and flowers in my dream have always been there in the background, God has always been with me!  However, I was so fearful of being abandoned by my companions that I didn’t realise it.

I know I was and will never be alone again – Thank you Lord for your blessed assurance.

“Hebrews 13:5 – for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

Emotional Abuse

 

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When we think about abuse in a relationship, we often think of bruised faces, scars on arms and legs.  What we commonly think of or are more familiar with is physical abuse.  There are many forms of abuse and any form of abuse is cruel.

Unlike physical abuse, emotional (or psychological) abuse is not obvious, it is subtle. Quite often even the victim does not recognize that he/ she is being abused.  Although emotional abuse does not leave black eyes or visible bruises, it is often more seriously damaging to the self-esteem and will of the person being abused.

Physical abuse scars a person’s body but emotional abuse scars a person’s soul.  Often, physical abuse is accompanied or follows emotional abuse.  Emotional battering is used to wear the victim down – often over a long period of time – to cause so much confusion to the person abused so as to undermine his/ her self-concept, to a point that he/ she is willing to take responsibility for the abuser’s actions and behaviour towards him/her or simply just accept it.

Just as there are many forms of physical abuse, there are many varieties of psychological abuse.  They include isolation, crazy-making, verbal abuse, belittling and other humiliating or degrading behaviours.  Though the abusive behaviours may not be easily recognisable by themselves, they are readily identified by recognising the effects they have on the person being abused.

Emotional abuse has the aim of control and dominance. If a person constantly feels as though his/ her feelings, needs, opinions are being devalued, are given no credence, chances are the person is experiencing some form of emotional abuse.

The long term result of emotional and psychological abuse leaves the victim feeling confused, unsure of his/her own judgement and ability to make decisions, sometimes even to the extent of believing that he/ she is going crazy.  Accompanied by these are often low self-esteem, as the victim’s own needs and opinions are often put down, criticised or disregarded.  Depression and even suicidal thoughts set in as the victim feels so trapped in the situation (especially in a close relationship).  Ironically, the victim is often being made blamed for the abuser’s bad behaviours and hence may experience a deep sense of shame and guilt.

Emotional abuse is controlling and wields an invisible prison that keeps the victim in bondage.  In many cases, the victim would have been so manipulated in their thoughts to even recognise that they are being threatened or controlled.  Over extended periods of time, the victim loses all sense of self-direction, self-will, self-confidence and eventually becomes dependent to the abuser and does everything to please/pacify the abuser.  This then perpetuates the vicious cycle of abuse and the abuser gets to keep his dominance over the victim.

Emotional abuse is such a subtle form of control and domination which leaves no visible marks, yet has a profound effect on the emotional and mental well being of the victim.  Victims often feel trapped and so emotionally hurt but cannot point a finger as what is wrong.  Many people have found that once the emotional abuse is no longer effective, physical violence follows.  Many victims suffer in silence – the repressed emotions which left unaddressed often manifest in ill health.

If you or anyone you know is in some form of abuse, please seek help immediately.  Do not make the mistake of thinking that the problem will get better or be resolved with time.  Value yourself and your loved ones enough to stand up for your own right.

The Freedom Programme© in the UK is particularly good at showing up all the myriads of ways in which emotional abuse is used within abusive relationship.  To find out more, check out the Freedom Programme.

 

Joy in Sorrow – Beauty for Ashes

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For there would be no sunrise without dark nights, … , no restoration without brokenness.  

- Reflections from the book ‘Overextended’ by Lisa Harper.

 

I’d like to warn you that this post is fairly long, I did not split this into 2 posts as that would lose the flow.  So please persevere and read on to the end …

When things are going our way in life, promotions, financial wealth, good  health, blossoming relationships, lovely new house/ car, and so on… it’s easy to be joyful, singing and dancing, looking to others and wondering why other people are acting like depressive maniacs, self- pity  partiers, low morale mongers indulging in sour grapes.

What happens when events take a turn in life, if we’re stricken with disease, incur financial losses, get betrayed by those closest to us, faced with career setbacks?  When the weather changes from a bright sunny day to a storm, can we still sing and dance in the storm? Especially when the world seems to be passing us by, friends are getting married or enjoying lovely marriages and kids, catapulting by leaps and bounds in their career or financial advances.

Under such circumstances, some people will spiral into depression, wallow in self-pity, become bitter, sour and even resentful of those who are seemingly in the celebration seasons of their lives.  After all, emotions (both positive and negative) are so attuned to our human nature.  I have to admit for once that I am a highly emotional girl.  Even the stormy weather can make me feel gloomy.  Being trained in psychology, I know far better about the colored lenses of depression and how behavior is affected by the cognition..  Nonetheless, that is easier said than done, as I’ve been down that road before (many times).  No matter how I convince myself to steer away from the negativity, I can’t help it!

Yet, there are some people who can still stay steadfast, purposeful.  Though, not all the time smiling, they choose to focus on the positive.  Though they feel down at times, they choose not to indulge in a pity party, more than a slice of chocolate cake.  What is the secret?

Life is unpredictable.  The only thing constant is change, just like the four seasons.  And much like the many parodies of life, the human heart is so intended for contrast that, without one, we would not comprehend (appreciate) the other.  For there would be no rainbow without the storm, no child birth without pain.   If we follow this reasoning, it is possible to grow seeds of joy in the soil of sorrow!

As the famous author C.S. Lewis so aptly put it – a heart that is so sheltered from the possibility of wreckage “will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.”

What’s wrong with an ‘irredeemable’ heart?  To answer that question, rather let’s ponder on “What good is an irredeemable heart?”  Can it spread forth unconditional love; is it capable of genuine magnanimity, let alone, even appreciate true love?   See the picture?  An irredeemable heart is a heart of stone, impervious, insensitive, and incapable of growth.

Hence, perhaps we need to suffer the agony of a broken heart before our heart can be restructured and restored into a more beautiful heart.  Given that, I’ll gladly have my shabby heart wrecked and shattered.  So it can be restructured into something more splendid than before.!

Periods of trials and tribulations in life serve to strengthen not only our minds but our hearts.  Psychologically speaking, that could be the process of ‘Self Actualization’, thanks to Maslow’s theory.  However, in layman’s term, I believe it’s a process whereby I am the clay and my potter is remolding me into a vessel for higher purpose.

Though the process is painful and uncertain, knowing the end result is reason enough to help me focus on staying hopeful.  So besides having an attitude of joy, I’m journeying on with an attitude of gratitude, in anticipation of the beauty to come.

If this is what you’re going through right now, I welcome you on this trail.  Though our paths may be different, I believe we’re getting onto something more magnificent in time to come.  Never lose faith and Joy!

 

(This post is inspired by an excerpt from Lisa Harper.)

Turn Forward the Clock

 

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This morning, I woke up to the warm bright morning sun.  I took a look at my clock, which says 6, I knew my clock has stopped.  Yes, time to change the battery, I said to myself.  So I hastened to my drawer, managed to scour for a small AA battery, pluck the clock out from the wall, replaced the battery.  Then I had to wind the clock as it has stopped at 6, and it was then 9 in the morning.

As I wind the clock, I remembered what my mum used to tell me about winding clocks or watches ” You always wind an clocks or watches forward, never backwards as it will ruin the mechanism in the clock works.  I’m  not sure why but I always followed that.

As I wounded my clock forward, a revelation came to me – isn’t life the same too?

Time in life is linear and one directional – that is – always moving forward.  Nonetheless, don’t we like to ‘turn back the clock’ and relive the old times in our minds.  Now don’t get me wrong, reminiscence is good – for fond memories. But what about the bad memories?

We all go through disappointments, hurts, failures, mistakes in life.  We’ve made bad choices, ended up with lacklustre careers, bad company, broken relationships, and many other heart breaks.  While it’s good to retrospect and learn from our mistakes.  Yet, human nature in us, likes to dwell in the past, look back and wonder ‘what if’, ‘what could have been’, ‘what should have been’ and all the likes.

Needless to say, time and tide waits for no man (or woman), time lost is lost, what’s in the past cannot be changed.  So why do we still like to turn back the clock, back to the past?  We can’t turn back the clock, go back in time to change things.

And how can we live our best in the present and towards our future, when we keep looking back, in mourning and regret?

Like any other so-journeyer in this trail called life, I realised I need to move on, keep looking and moving forward.  No amount of looking back can undo yesterday.

As the saying goes, it doesn’t matter where we came from, it matters where we’re going.

The only way ahead is to look forward and live, because the Best is yet to Be, you have not lived your best time yet!

 

 

 

 

The more I know God

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The more I know God, the more I realise

Life is not about the past.

What’s past cannot be undone.

No amount of regret can turn back time.

Life is not about the future.

For who are we to ponder,

as if we know any better.

Life is about the present.

For everyday from God is a gift.

Day by day, step by step,

eyes on God,

never from His wondrous love drift.

Substance Abuse in the Armed Forces

The information below is courtesy of Rehab Hotline:

 

Members of our armed forces, particularly those who have been deployed in warzones, deal with many issues beyond the battlefield. Many suffer from severe post-traumatic stress syndrome (PTSD) brought on by combat experiences. For others, merely reintegrating into society at home can be stressful and challenging. While drug use is strongly discouraged in the armed services, many veterans know that there is a general culture of acceptance of alcohol abuse. Soldiers, seamen, airmen and Marines work hard — and tend to play hard. For many vets, however, this cycle becomes an addiction and begins to affect their health and their relationships.

RehabHotline has created this infographic to inform viewers of the problems service members face with substances and also as an outreach tool to let veterans and their families know that they are not alone if they are dealing with chemical dependency problems. There is help available.

Retrospection

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As we look back at the year, let’s not look back in anger,

neither should we look back in defeat.

Instead look back with gratitude.

Be thankful for the afflictions, for they have made your heart stronger.

Be thankful for the betrayals, for they have made your eyes brighter.

Be thankful for the struggles, for they have made your will tougher.

Be thankful for all of life’s insights for they have made your mind free-er.

For a phoenix cannot rise up from the flames without first being burned to the ground.

So let’s retrospect with thanks and prospect with hope for 2014 !

 

The Best Christmas Present

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Christmas is here again, carols, jingle bells, gifts, gatherings and dinners.  Gift exchanges are the norm, with friends and family.  We all have many wants in life, a new watch, a new dress, a new designer handbag or even wealth, fame, fortune, popularity…  I know I’m guilty of these secret wishes some times.

This year, Christmas has been exceptionally quiet for me.  No loud parties, no flashy gifts, no trendy dresses, no luxurious toiletries set, no fancy jewelry, no chocolates, nothing.

But I’m not complaining – for I know I’ve received the best gift of all:  To have my mum back from surgery, safe and sound.  She had not been in good health and feared going for operation.  Although we may not be on the best of terms all the time, growing up, I was antagonistic and always the rebellious one, deep down, I was really worried for her health and the risks.   Nonetheless I’m glad she went through with it and am recovering now.  Hopefully, she’ll be cancer free in the coming years.

I hope this is not too much to ask for for now.

Maslow’s Self-Actualisation Theory

For the Psychology inclined, dig this:

 

The fulfillment of one’s potential, or self-actualisation is regarded to be critical to psychological well-being and optimal mental health (Rogers, 1959).  Maslow proposed that self-actualisation is achieveable only when basic needs (physiological needs, safety needs, belongingness and love needs, esteem needs) are fulfilled.  According to Maslow, self-actualisation includes being reality-focused, problem-focused, opened to experiences, receptive of self and others and autonomous (ruled by own values).  Self-actualised people may show negative attributes including stubbornness and detachment (Maslow, 1943).

In a study that investigated personality characteristics which correlate with self-actualisation.   Self-actualisation correlated negatively neuroticism but positively with extraversion, openness, agreeableness and conscientiousness.  All correlations were significant.  Self-actualisation is an important concept within humanistic personality theories.  These theories believe that everyone has the capacity to develop their full potential and achieve self-actualisation (which is important to psychological health).  Hence, the focus is on helping people become more competent and achieve optimal mental health (Rogers, 1959).  In this light, further understanding of self-actualisation will be useful in counseling settings as psychologists help clients advance towards optimal mental health.

 

Further Reading

 

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NEO Five Factor Inventory (NEO-FFI).Odessa, FL: Psychological Assessment

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Written by Clint Cora

Life Without An Eraser

My real estate agent sends me regular newsletters and in one issue, I saw the following quote by John Gardner.

’Life is the art of drawing without an eraser’.

This quote pretty well sums up how to realistically live our lives. We all make mistakes and have some negative experiences in life. We don’t have giant erasers to erase the bad circumstances we all go through. However, if we learn from these negative experiences, we can live our lives better in the future much like how the developing artist learns to draw better each day.
In my Toyota Supra black ice accident, which I can’t erase, I quickly learned to change my driving habits. As a result, I have been accident free for the last twenty five years as a driver ever since (except for one small incident when another driver hit my car in a shopping mall parking lot).

Each day is a learning opportunity for us and having some bad experiences from time to time is just reality. We can’t erase these bad experiences whether they are accidents, failures or mistakes, but we can certainly learn from them.

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The Alchemist – finding your purpose in life

Originally posted on The BEST You Project:

A while ago I watched some You Tube clips of Will Smith, one of my idols, and in one interview with Travis Smiley, Will mentioned the book called The Alchemist written by Paulo Coelho and how it changed his life. If a book has such a profound affect on a great thinker and inspirational guy like Will then I thought it was worth giving it a go.

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I bought it and read the full thing in less than a week and wasn’t disappointed. Don’t get me wrong it’s not a long book and is so intriguing that you’ll rattle through the 197 pages in no time. What was refreshing and inspiring was that I got the story, I recognised the hidden meanings and what the book was teaching. It was almost a eureka moment at the end as I applied the theory to my life and pin pointed my own…

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Dreamers!

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I think there’s a certain delusional quality that all SUCCESSFUL people have to have,

YOU have to BELIEVE that something different than what has happened for the past 50 million years CAN happen.

Being realistic is the most commonly travelled road to mediocrity.

What’s the point of being realistic?

It’s UNREALISTIC to walk into a room,

flip a switch and have light come on,

but fortunately Edison didn’t think so.

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An Endearing Story

The starfish is a symbol of divine love. It also holds characteristics such as guidance, vigilance, inspiration, brilliance and intuition. 

Once a man was walking along a beach. The sun was shining and it was a beautiful day. Off in the distance he could see a person going back and forth between the surf’s edge and the beach. Back and forth this person went. As the man approached, he could see that there were hundreds of starfish stranded on the sand as the result of the natural action of the tide.

The man was stuck by the apparent futility of the task. There were far too many starfish. Many of them were sure to perish. As he approached, the person continued the task of picking up starfish one by one and throwing them into the surf.

As he came up to the person, he said: “You must be crazy. There are thousands of miles of beach covered with starfish. You can’t possibly make a difference.” The person looked at the man. He then stooped down and picks up one more starfish and threw it back into the ocean. He turned back to the man and said: “It sure made a difference to that one!”

 

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Ho can we apply the story of the starfish into your daily life?

Any suggestions or similar stories to share?

 

 

Overcoming Failure

No one actually wants to encounter failure in their life.
That’s because when you look at the isolated incident, it means that you haven’t found success.
However, with the right attitude, you can use your failure in order to get yourself to success in an accelerated fashion.

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Never Give Up On Yourself

It may help you to stop using words like “failure” when it comes to your attempts at success. As long as you’re still trying on that road to success, then you actually haven’t failed. It’s only once you’ve given up that you’ve failed.

3 key things to remember:
Remain Positive,
Stay Committed,
Learn from failure!

Life is tough though. To say “never give up” is easier said than done. Of course there will be times when you feel like giving up, everyone encounters these times. Just ask any successful person that you admire. However, it’s those people that still make the extra effort even when they feel like giving up that reach success. There’s nothing stopping you from being one of these people.

Of course you want to get to success as fast as you possibly can, but you must give yourself proper time. Everyone has their unique road and when you stop comparing yourself to others and just plough forward with your plans, you’ll get there before you know it.

What’s your take in the face of t failure? Will you quit or persevere?

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A Great Salesperson Can Sell Anything! Really??

By Bernie O’Donnell

There is absolutely no basis for the adage that “great salespeople can sell anything.” Nor is there a basis for the unqualified premise that “the best predictor of future performance is past performance.” It all depends on the degree to which your environment mirrors that in which the salesperson has been most successful.

We’ve identified 9 Territory Casting Factors™ that are essential to understand if you wish to outmaneuver your competition in the race to increase average sales per rep.

1. Target Market (buyer profile)
2. Relational vs. Transactional (ongoing vs. one-time deal)
3. New vs. Established Customer (hunter vs. builder)
4. Straightforward vs. Technical/Complex Product
5. Tangible Product vs. Intangible Service
6. Long vs. Short Sell Cycle
7. Big Ticket vs. Small Ticket (price)
8. Selling Methodology (consultative vs. product, etc.)
9. Brand Expectation (reputation and image)

Each of these needs to be described for your business. Then relevant questions and scenarios can be developed to see how well the applicant’s experience compares. If you happen to be a salesperson seeking a new position, you should do this exercise so you can identify those opportunities in which you are likely to be most successful.

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You see, we all have internal programs we learn. Sometimes we learn them in childhood, and sometimes we learn them as adults.
Some of these programs aren’t helpful, such as constantly worrying, stopping yourself from writing, or scaring yourself so much that you can’t go after your dreams.

It’s not that these programs are bad, because they work perfectly. The problem happens when they stop you from doing something you want.
That’s when you need to change the programs within you.

The Bottom Line

In the end, you are the only one that can make the changes necessary. I’ve had many people email me, and they want to feel good without any effort.

If you want to transform who you are and live up to your full potential, you have to first face the dragon (your fears), but what you’ll realize is that your fears are only half an inch thick.
It’s terrifying, but it’s over in a heartbeat.
When you let go of your fears and negative memories, your life changes.

The question then is, are you ready for it?

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4. The Work
The Work was created by Byron Katie, and it’s a system of four simple questions:
• Is it true?
• Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
• How do you react when you believe this thought?
• Who would you be without this thought?

That’s how it starts, and while my paraphrasing of the questions may not be perfect, the questions still hold power, because they open up your mind and beliefs to new possibilities.
There are so many options to feel better that I am confused about the fact that people still try to drink and eat their problems away.

5. NLP
Last, but definitely not least is NLP, which I use when I work with my own clients. NLP gives you the user’s manual for your brain.
It allows me to help my clients achieve quick changes that have big ramifications in their life.

As an example, one client came to me with writer’s block. She had trouble with anxiety when she sat down to write.0
She loved writing, but it wasn’t happening. She had some bad memories and experiences from the past around writing, and when we cleared those up, everything changed.

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2. Acceptance
This is another part of being in the now. Most people try to run away from their negative emotions. They eat, watch TV, have sex, read, or hang online.
When you get curious about the feeling and accept it as a part of you, it tends to disappear.

But how do you accept it when it feels so painful?
That’s the first hurdle you have to overcome, because when you do, you will realize that the pain was only half an inch thick.
You can either learn to let go of your negative emotions, or you can keep doing what you’ve been doing up until this point.
3. EFT
EFT is weird, but it works. Nowadays I use something called FasterEFT, which is more efficient and uses a few tricks from NLP, or Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
It’s faster, and it works better than classic EFT, at least for me. The mistake most people make is they dismiss EFT because of how it looks.

Another mistake is that they use it a few days and give up. Changing how you feel means going in and cleaning stuff up, and most of us have a lot of garbage stored in our brain, so it takes time.
But after a while you start feeling a deep sense of peace, joy, and wholeness. At that point you know that it’s all worth it.

Stay tuned for the more ways

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Do you ever experience negative emotions to the extent that you wish they would just go away forever?

We all do, and most people suffer unnecessarily because of them.
The good news is that you don’t have to do that. The bad news is that most people will do it anyway, even though the tools are right in front of their eyes.

Why?
Because of familiarity.

It’s uncomfortable to face the unknown, even though that is where all the possibilities lie. You cannot have certainty and possibility.
You must face your emotions head on.
That is the key to peace. When you are willing to do that, you have reclaimed your freedom.

1. Now
You’re probably familiar with the Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle. In the book, Eckhart puts forth a simple proposition, stay in the now and you will feel peace.
Most people don’t understand it right away, but when they do, their life changes dramatically, because when you’re in the now, you are present with everything around you.
Think of a time when you were anxious or afraid of a future event, and notice what happened when that event happened and you experienced it.
It wasn’t as bad as you thought it was, was it?
That’s because when you experienced it, you were in the now, and when that happened, the unknown became known.
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Say Yes !

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Have you seen the movie ‘Yes Man’ by Jim Carrie before?

In the movie Jim Carrie plays the role of a Bank loan officer Carl Allen has become withdrawn since his divorce from ex-wife Stephanie.  He was living a pessimistic life and never said ‘Yes’ to anything or anyone.  Until he went for a motivational seminar and and meets inspirational guru Terrence Bundley, who publicly browbeats him into making a covenant with himself. Carl reluctantly promises to stop being a “No Man” and vows to answer “Yes!” to every opportunity, request or invitation that presents itself thereafter.

Carl began saying ‘Yes’ to everything and everyone and his life seemed to take a turn for the better, until things started getting bad and he got into an accident while trying to get Terrence to ‘stop’ the covenant with him.  After Carl recovers consciousness, Terrence tells Carl that there was no covenant. The starting point was merely to open Carl’s mind to other possibilities, not to permanently take away his ability to say no if he needed to.

Does the idea of taking a chance, any chance terrify you ?

Once in a while, do you …

take a different turn, at a different corner,

explore a new flavor,

wear a different color.

You never know who you’ll meet, what you’ll do, where you’ll go.

As Forest Gump said ‘ Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’ll get ‘

But isn’t that the essence of Life?  We never really know everything for sure.

In life, perhaps we sometimes need to allow ourselves the luxury of saying ‘Yes’, to possibilities.

Don’t think you are not good enough, without even starting.

Don’t give up, without even trying.

Open your mind and heart and you’ll be amazed what  You can achieve !

Say Yes !

 

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Celebrate You !

When nobody else celebrates you, learn to celebrate yourself.
When nobody else compliments you, compliment yourself.
It’s not up to other people to keep you encouraged.
It’s up to you!
Encouragement should come from the inside.

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2012 in review

Dear Readers,

It’s been great having you on board.  Thank you for all your follows, likes and comments.  In return, I’ve learnt much from the  writings on your blogs too.  

Here’s wishing Everyone a Happy New Year for 2013 while we recap the year 2012 that’s ending soon!

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 7,600 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 13 years to get that many views.

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‎”If you don’t fail… you’re not even trying.”

“To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did.”

Les Brown, a motivational speaker, made an analogy about this.

Imagine you’re on your deathbed—and standing around your bed are the ghosts representing your unfilled potential.The ghosts of the ideas you never acted on. The ghosts of the talents you didn’t use.

And they’re standing around your bed. Angry. Disappointed. Upset.

“We came to you because you could have brought us to life,” they say. “And now we go to the grave together.”

So I ask you today: How many ghosts are going to be around your bed when your time comes? – Penn Commencement Address given Monday, May 16, 2011 by Denzel Washington

Live Your Life Without An Eraser 1

Written by Clint Cora

I think my business colleague was a bit nervous when he first got into my Eagle Talon sports car. I was driving us to a few appointments that day. About halfway into our day on the road together, he said that he was pleasantly surprised about my driving. For some reason, he thought that since I drove a black sports car, I would be driving like a wild man. But much to his surprise, he noticed that I never sped or drove very aggressively. This is when I told him about my story about an incident many years ago that changed my driving habits forever.

Negative Experiences That Change You For The Better

I was a young man in my mid twenties just starting my career. I decided to reward myself with a new car. It was a black Toyota Supra, the first car I ever bought on my own. After seeing the black Ferrari on Miami Vice, I wanted a black sports car as well. I seem to have a thing for black sports cars as I’m currently on my fourth one now and the next one will likely be a black Mustang.
I was driving in the fast lane westbound on the QEW, which is the highway that runs around Lake Ontario from Toronto to Niagara Falls. It was a Canadian winter day but the weather was clear and so were the roads, or so I thought.
Like many other vehicles on the highway, I was doing about 120 kilometers per hour in a 100 kilometers speed limit. Everything was smooth sailing on the highway until my car started to somehow lose grip on the road. I spun around 180 degrees and actually saw the other cars coming toward me as I went across all three lanes. Fortunately, my Supra ended up off the highway on the far side shoulder.
It‚Äôs a miracle that I didn’t get hit by any of the other vehicles as I went across the lanes but the side of my car did hit a post which resulted in my side window smashing apart. I was not hurt though so I came out extremely lucky.
What must have happened was that I hit some ‚’black ice’ on the highway. This is a term we use here in Canada that describes ice on the roads that drivers can’t see. In my case, I was driving too fast in black ice conditions I was not aware of.
This single negative experience on the road changed my driving habits forever. Although it didn’t change my personal taste for black sports cars, I no longer speed especially on the highways during winter months. Quite often in questionable winter days, I’m actually well under the speed limit and don’t mind almost every other vehicle on the road passing me, even if they are driven by little old ladies. I would rather make it to my destinations in one piece.
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Never Give up (Keep the Dreams Alive)

You spent countless nights, forsaking sleep.
Chiselling the words and weaving the story.
But they say your writing is boring, not good enough. 
Nonethelss you know  it is your painstaking creation, not just any piece of text.

You spent months conceptualising, a new product – revolutionary.
Foregoing slumber, you were trying to break the boundaries.
But they say you are crazy, it will not take off. 
Nonethless you know in your guts, your ‘baby’ is promising potential ahead of its time.

This person was fired by the directors of his own start-up. After several years, when he was hired back by this startup, he launched a series of products that made history in the technology market. “At Stanford where pioneering spirit meets 21 century technology.“ Although Steve Jobs is not a graduate of Stanford, he has certainly lived out this slogan.

In the early 90s, while competitors like creative and samsung were striving to dominate the music industry,  Steve’s innovation of Apple’s iPod music player and iTunes online store rocked the market. The iMac rescued Apple from struggling survival to stable position in the pc market.

Just 3 years back, While every mobile phone came with a keypad and stencil, Steve created a quantum lead with the touch screen, a feature which was so ‘Alien’ back then. Now, almost every mobile phone is moving towards touch screen design.

Whether you’re a writer, artist, musician, inventor or entrepreneur, we’re all too familiar with the agony of creation. 

You may be the Crazy One but never give up, keep the Dreams Alive !

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Now you can have your COFFEE and EAT it

Sip + Crunch: Edible Cookie Coffee Cup is a Delicious Dish

A nice cup of coffee in the morning is one of those simple pleasures that sets the mood for the entire day. The Cookie Cup from Italian company Lavazza makes that simple pleasure even better by eliminating the need to wash dishes after the java is gone.

The edible cookie cup is made of a light (but sturdy) pastry and lined with sugar to make it waterproof. The sugar dissolves slightly to sweeten the coffee as you drink it.

The tasty cup is softened a bit by the time you finish your coffee and melts in your mouth as you munch it. As anyone who has dipped cookies in coffee knows, the two tastes combine divinely. If there is anything that can top the elimination of some dirty dishes, it’s a yummy snack to go along with some delicious coffee.

Passion with Vision – Howard Schultz

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Who can resist the aroma of a well-roasted coffee bean? Mention Starbucks and everyone knows the distinctive coffee outlets. But the Starbucks Coffee Co. leader was undoubtedly the first to turn that reverie into a billion dollar retail operation.

Schultz was born in 1952 and raised in a Brooklyn, N.Y., housing project. A football scholarship to Northern Michigan University was his ticket out, and after graduating he worked a variety of jobs until becoming manager of U.S. operations for Hammarplast.   Little did everyone know that this young man would start up one of the greatest global brands of our times…

Schultz’s adventure started in 1981 when he traveled from New York to Seattle to check out a popular coffee bean store called Starbucks that had been buying many of the Hammarplast Swedish drip coffeemakers he was selling. There was that great smell, sure, but what caused him to fall in love with the business was the care the Starbucks owners put into choosing and roasting the beans. He also was impressed with the owners’ dedication to educating the public about the wonders of coffee connoisseurship.   It took Schultz a year to convince the Starbucks owners to hire him. When they finally made him director of marketing and operations in 1982, he had another epiphany. This one occurred in Italy, when Schultz took note of the coffee bars that existed on practically every block. He learned that they not only served excellent espresso, they also served as meeting places or public squares; they were a big part of Italy’s societal glue, and there were 200,000 of them in the country.

But back in Seattle, the Starbucks owners resisted Schultz’s plans to serve coffee in the stores, saying they didn’t want to get into the restaurant business. Frustrated, Schultz quit and started his own coffee-bar business, called Il Giornale. It was successful, and a year later Schultz bought Starbucks for $3.8 million.

As the company began to expand rapidly in the ’90s, Schultz always said that the main goal was “to serve a great cup of coffee.” But attached to this goal was a principle: Schultz said he wanted “to build a company with soul.”

This led to a series of practices that were unprecedented in retail. Schultz insisted that all employees working at least 20 hours a week get comprehensive health coverage — including coverage for unmarried spouses. Then he introduced an employee stock-option plan. These moves boosted loyalty and led to extremely low worker turnover, even though employee salaries were fairly low.

Why was Schultz so generous? He remembers his father, who struggled mightily at low-paying jobs with little to show for it when he died.

Schultz has said that his model for expanding Starbucks is McDonald’s, with a few key differences. One is that Starbucks owns most of its stores, while McDonald’s franchises. Schultz doesn’t believe it’s possible to build a strong brand around franchises — although McDonald’s is an obvious exception. Another difference is that Starbucks managed to blossom without national advertising. Finally, Starbucks sells premium products to a fairly upscale, urban clientele.

Starbucks experienced astronomical expansion during the go-go ’90s, going public in 1992. The company has almost 4,000 stores in 25 countries, serving 15 million people a week, and new outlets are opening so fast it has Wall Street’s head spinning. The company seems to be immune to market vagaries as well, gaining 25 percent in stock value last year while the Dow Jones Industrial Index lost 10 percent and the Nasdaq 60 percent.

Schultz indulged his love of basketball by buying the Seattle Supersonics for $250 million. He also handed over CEO chores to Orin Smith so that Schultz can focus on global strategy. He believes that Starbucks is just getting started. “Despite the success that Starbucks has enjoyed in the U.S., we have a less than 6 percent market share of coffee consumption,” Schultz said. “We are in the infant stages of the growth of the business even in America. And now seeing what we’ve done internationally … we are going to shock people in terms of what Starbucks is going to be.”

Asked the secret of his success, Schultz recounts four principles:

“Don’t be threatened by people smarter than you.

Compromise anything but your core values.

Seek to renew yourself even when you are hitting home runs.

And everything matters.”  

Truly inspiring story of an entrepreneur who didn’t give up at anything he believed in.  He had passion for his vision and was determined and persevered to make his dreams a reality.  

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Find Your Greatness

Greatness:
Somehow we’ve come to believe that greatness is only for the chosen few, for the superstars.
The truth is, greatness is for us all. This is not about lowering expectations;
it’s about raising them for every last one of us.
Greatness is not in one special place, and it’s not in one special person.
Greatness is wherever somebody is trying to find it. Find your greatness.

A Great Salesperson Can Sell Anything! Really??

By Bernie O’Donnell

Despite the likelihood that salespeople are the most studied species among mankind, we continue to hire, incent and coach them based upon an erroneous set of beliefs. The result is missed opportunities, low margins, missed quotas, unacceptable service and — the mortal sin — lost customers.

There is absolutely no basis for the adage that “great salespeople can sell anything.” Nor is there a basis for the unqualified premise that “the best predictor of future performance is past performance.” It all depends on the degree to which your environment mirrors that in which the salesperson has been most successful.

As with any job, the personal drivers of sales success are found within expertise, traits and character – the Competency Trio™. In most jobs, Expertise (skills, knowledge and experience) is the easiest to assess, but not so in sales. Personality, which is formed from elements of traits and character, gets much attention as sales managers seek that non-existent magic salesperson that can “sell anything to anyone.”

Unfortunately, this focus on personality and attitude is often at the expense of two factors that are at least as predictive of future success.

The first is mental acuity. How much business do you think gets left on the table because the salesperson doesn’t think as fast as the buyer or decision maker? The second critical consideration is how well your environment maps to the experience of the sales rep.

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HOPE

HOPE – Honest Optimism based on Personal Endeavors

I love the above acronym for hope. This simply says that yes, there is something we can do to have hope.

Hope - Inspirational Quotes

Hope – Inspirational Quotes

Is hope really that important? Martin Luther said that everything that is done in the world is done by hope. John Lubbock said that hope should be classed as virtue, along with faith and character. Alexander said that hope is the true inheritance of all that resolve upon great enterprises. We could also think of it in this light: A person without hope will take no action. The student who has no hope of passing will not study; the salesperson with no hope of making the sale won’t make the call. Hope is the starting point for accomplishment.

Over the years, with the help of hundreds of audiences and thousands of people all over the world, I have come to the conclusion that there are eight things that all of us want, regardless of our age, education, ethnic background or gender. Everybody wants to be happy, healthy, at least reasonably prosperous, secure, to have friends, peace of mind, good family relationships and hope. Actually, it all starts with hope.

Carefully examine these eight things and ask yourself the questions: Can I honestly expect to be happy if I have no hope? What impact would it have on my health if I were without hope? How prosperous could I become if I had no hope that I could become prosperous? How secure would I be in my personal, family and career if I had no hope? What kind of person would I be and, consequently, how many friends would I be able to attract if I were living without hope? Can you imagine peace of mind without hope? What do you think your relationship with your family would be if you were a person without hope?

Interestingly enough, the best way to have hope is to give hope. The more you give, the more you’ll have. Give it to those you encounter and I’ll SEE YOU AT THE TOP!

By Zig Ziglar

Zig Ziglar is known as America’s motivator. He is the author of 29 books and numerous audio and video recordings. See him in action!

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